August 2017 Total Solar Eclipse – Facts for Kids and Adults that Failed Science Class

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The anticipated “Great American Eclipse” is fast approaching but lately I have found myself ill prepared to answer questions about the epic event.  What a great opportunity to teach kids about science and model being a life-long-learner at the same time.

I began some research since I didn’t pay much attention in science class.   I do weird things at 4AM when I can’t sleep.  I found a ton of great graphics and maps that I think would be interesting to kids and adults alike.  Don’t pass over the links folks.

When will the next total solar eclipse happen?

On Monday August 21st 2017 a solar eclipse will be visible across the United States.  The moon will cover the sun turning daylight into darkness.  Lincoln City, Oregon is the first city to see this awesome event at 9:05AM with Totality (when the moon is directly in front of the sun) beginning at 10:16AM according to NASA.  The eclipse happens in stages and at different times across the United States so pay attention.

What is a Solar Eclipse?

A Solar Eclipse is when the moon travels in-between the Earth and sun.  The moon casts a shadow on parts of the earth as it blocks some of the suns light.  There are 3 different types of solar eclipses.  According to Spacekids.org the types are total eclipse, partial eclipse, and annular eclipse.

What is a Total Solar Eclipse?

In a total solar eclipse the moon covers the entire sun and only the corona is visible.  The corona is made of a gas surrounding the sun and it is only visible to us during a total solar eclipse. If you are in the right place on earth and you just happen to be in the moons shadow it will become dark for a short time even though it is in the middle of the day. solar eclipse

Here is a great graphic from Timeanddate.com

Isn’t it dangerous to look directly at the sun?

Yes, looking at the sun is never a good idea.  Even if you look at the sun and look away for a short while you can still damage your retina in your eye.  Permanent damage and even blindness can occur.  It is important to use special eclipse glasses that are certified for viewing an eclipse.  Sunglasses do not fit the bill.  Before using your special glasses make sure they are not damaged in any way.  Please view this graphic for important information about proper eye protection.

Who will be Able to see the Eclipse on August 21st?

A partial eclipse can be seen across the United States from the Pacific Ocean to the Atlantic Ocean but to se the moon totally block the sun you must be in the path of “totality.”  If you are in Oregon, Idaho, Wyoming. Montana, Nebraska, Kansas, Missouri, Illinois, Kentucky, Iowa, Tennessee, Georgie, North Carolina or South Carolina you may be able to see the total eclipse.  “The Path of Totality” is about 70 miles wide but many others can view a partial eclipse.  Check out this infographic from Vox to find out what you will see and at what time.  Just enter your zip code in the yellow box.

Here is an interactive map from NASA showing what you can see and at what time

Totality of solar Eclipse of 2017

Has this happened before?

Yes, the last total solar eclipse to cross the United States from the West coast to the East coast was on June 8, 1918.  On Feb. 26, 1979, some states in the Northwest got to see another total solar eclipse. The next one is scheduled to pass over the United States on October 14, 2023.

Why doesn’t this happen more often?

The moon circles the earth about every 27 days but a solar eclipse does not happen once a month.  The Sun, Earth and Moon need to be perfectly aligned for the moon to cast a shadow on earth but the moon tilts about 5 degrees as it orbits the earth.  The eclipse cannot happen because “…Earth’s orbit around the sun is not in the same plane as the Moon’s orbit around the Earth.” Ask and Astronomer  

 

Fun Random Facts

  • During the eclipse birds will become confused and start chirping because it appears to be nighttime.
  • If you are in totallity you may be able to see stars during the total eclipse.
  • It will cool down during the event and shortly after because they sun’s rays will be totally blocked and it will take a bit for it to warm up the earth again
  • Total Solar Eclipses cannot be seen from the North and South poles
  • The word eclipse originated from Latin (Eclipsis), French and Greek (Eklleip) languages meaning fail to appear.

    What did you think?

    I didn’t know all that jazz about the moon, earth and sun.  I hope my kids pay better attention in science than I did.

 

 

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Crunchy Mammas Avoid Phthalates

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Phthalates are a family of chemical compounds known by many different names.  They are found in hundreds of products including plastic baby toys, personal care products, air fresheners, dryer sheets, scented plug-ins, dish soaps, bathroom cleaners and window cleaners.  They are pretty much everywhere including that blue box of Mac & cheese your kids love so much.  Before I became a parent I didn’t pay any attention to ingredients in dryer sheets but as you will find out I have changed.
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My journey to Green Cleaning 

When I became a stay-at-home mom, I joined my local MOMs Club chapter to avoid  being painfully isolated from society.  Other moms were making their own household cleaners to be frugal and avoid chemicals. I thought they were sniffing glue at the craft table.  I barely had time to wash my hair and put on a bra.  But, I also knew statistics for indoor air quality were depressing so I decided to do some research.

I found a bunch of articles written by moms who ate kale for breakfast and pretty much believed that Lysol would make my perfect new baby grow a second penis.  There were long lists of ingredients and pretty scary health risks for cleaners I was wiping my highchair down with.  But the articles didn’t offer any REAL credible information.

Ultimately, I did find enough evidence to make some changes but it wasn’t because crunchy mammas made me do it. I stopped buying cleaning products in the store 11 years ago because;

  1. I don’t believe our homes needs to be sterile – many cleaners kill good bacteria as well as bad bacteria and we need to come into contact with germs so our immune system can work properly
  2. When you do need to properly disinfect I believe it can be done with simple disinfectant, not an expensive bottle with a long list of unpronounceable ingredients.
  3. I got tired of wasting money on big manufactures and helping them cover the cost of packaging, branding, advertising and fillers in their products
  4. I could make some pretty amazing cleaners easily.
  5. I found a manufacturer that I trusted buying some things from and they delivered

In a nutshell I think big manufactures use the cheapest possible ingredients, sucker us in with their packaging and advertising and do not care about the health and well-being of my family.  So instead of listing all the ingredients crunchy mammas hate let’s simplify things a little to make a point.

Let’s just focus on one offender commonly on the naughty list and why they can be poetically harmful to humans.  Remember this is just one small ingredient in the chemical shit storm your body absorbs if you use most cleaning products on the market.

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I get angry if I happen to stroll down this aisle at the grocery store and look at the prices people pay.

 

Why Reduce Exposure to phthalates in Cleaning Products  

  • Because they are linked to abnormal obesity and insulin response in adult males according to the University of Rochester Medical Center
  • Suspected link to declining sperm count
  • Changes in reproductive organs in boy babies
  • They are linked to Thyroid disorders
  • They are linked to Birth Defects
  • They are linked to Early puberty in girls
  • They are a Possible Asthma and allergen irritant – Endocrine Disruptors and Asthma-Associated Chemicals in Consumer Products  appears on the National Library of Medicine
  • This Scientific American article highlights scientists that suggest the health effects are larger than suspected because there are no studies showing combined effects of chemicals. “In human bodies, phthalates combine, amplifying the effects on male reproduction,” the article states.

I know my kids can’t live in a bubble but I like to focus on things I can control.  

“Children born to women who held cleaning jobs while pregnant have an elevated risk of birth defects, according to a 2010 study by the New York State Department of Health.”  Emviocrmental Working Group 

It is important to know that many agencies and regulatory bodies have maintained that phthalates are safe.  I am just another consumer trying to make relatively educated choices.  I do think more research needs to be done but I am glad there are alternatives.

What do you think have I gone to the dark side?

Fabulous Resources

Environmental Working Group Decoding Labels   is a fantastic tool for cutting through all the jargon
Clean House Clean Planet was written a while ago but it is still very useful information.  It is informative and offers several easy alternatives receives for cleaners.  It even rates each recipe and gives a cost breakdown.
A Report From Environmental Health Strategy Center
Maternal occupation and the risk of major birth defects takes about possible correlation between occupations of pregnant women and birth defects

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The Screen Time Struggle

Lazy Days

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Today Jaxon and I are a little under the weather.  We need to rest up for our upcoming beach trip so I declared today is a lazy day.  Both kids are sitting in front of the TV and they are probably going to stay there.  I don’t let that happen very often, not without a fight anyway.

I HATE having a TV in our living room.  I easily become enraged and flip the damn thing off on a whim.  I don’t care who is sitting in front of the thing or what they happen to be watching.  When I see my family staring at the irritating talking box I see two things laziness and failure to thrive.  I know this sounds dramatic but hear me out.

As a parent of two school age boys, it is my job to foster age appropriate skills in a safe environment so my kids can live happy fulfilled lives knowing they can take care of themselves.  When they are being entertained by a screen, like now, they are opting out of participating in family life and life in general.  I do let them chill with their friends on Minecraft for a good amount of time but it is my job to find a good balance between the two worlds.  They don’t make it easy and I sometimes get lazy myself.

The real problem with the screen

As my kids are on our couch, they are in front of a beautiful bay window, surrounded by books, people and nature.  They can be gardening, reading, learning to cook or even taking a walk.  They live in a day and age where we can learn to do anything just by asking Google and logging onto YouTube yet they watch hours of nonsense.

I recently asked a health professional what the new standard was for screen time.  I was hoping that he would give me a hard and fast rule.  He gave me different advice.  He told me to not focus on “screen time” but rather what I should be replacing it with.  What else could we do as a family?

It occurred to me that we needed to engage more as a family but many adults around them are addicted to phones and their friends are immersed in this new digital culture.  Technology is everywhere, in every room of the house and at school so it shouldn’t be surprising that we have lost touch connecting with each other.

On the flip side, one of the hardest parts of being a parent to school-aged kids is learning that it is not your job to make sure they are entertained all the time.  Sometimes they need to be bored for a while.  Sure, they will wine and complain but stick it out and give them some ideas if need be.  There is a whole world to discover if they choose to lay in the hall and cry maybe that is what they need to do that day.  Anyway, I don’t have time to sit at the park all day every day.

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My husband and I are just as addicted to technology as our kids.  We all are so used to being entertained that we have lost a sense of family and community.  I fought my family for years before I eventually gave in and let the TV in the living room because I couldn’t stand the thought of cooking dinner, folding laundry and cleaning up around my family as they ate on the couch.  But I was missing the bigger picture.

I made the mistake of using technology too often and too soon and now I am playing for it.  I see parents do it all the time.  They use the TV, video games, computer, iPad, iPhone or whatever to entertain their kids so they can get some work done and not lose their mind doing it.  We all know it’s bad but we don’t all have the skills and energy to deal with life ourselves.

Lazy days not lazy parenting

I don’t know what other people do but I make lists.  Lists of things the kids are interested in, things they could learn, things I wanted them to learn and places I wanted to take them.  Now I just have to balance lazy moments with what’s next on the list.

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Learning something new is always fun

My kids come up with new and inventive ways to weasel there way to some sort of electronic device all the time.  Sometimes I am on top of it and other times I fail miserably.  Here is a short list of 10 things we have done to reduce screen time and spend more time together.

  1.  After school sports
  2. Cub Scouts
  3. Kid profiles on the computers with a timer and bed time shut off
  4. Singing and creating songs together
  5. Taking walks in the evening and going to the park during the day
  6. cooking and eating together
  7. visiting local farmers’ markets and attending free events in the area
  8. Sitting outside on the porch and talking, swimming in the small pool or roasting marshmallows
  9. We collect things together like rocks, Pokémon cards and Hot Wheels
  10. We take at least 20-30 a day to practice math skills or read

A lazy day (like today Geez) every once in a while, is OK but I try to not make it the norm.

What do you do as a family?  I would love to know.

 

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Balancing Safety and Freedom

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I Thought Leashes Were for Dogs

Before I had kids, I made fun of people who used these child leash looking things.  Some of these safety devices even look like handcuffs.  I wondered why they couldn’t get control of their kids.  Is this lazy parenting?

Then This Happened

When Jaxon was very little, I was at a park playdate with a group of moms.  Jaxon took off running and I trotted after him.  There was a fence ahead so I figured he would stop at the fence since it was a foot over his head.  I called his name but he was after something.  As he approached the fence I ran a little faster so I could corner him but I wasn’t panicked yet just a lot embarrassed and a little pissed.

He had run clear across a huge field and all the other moms were looking on while feeding their kids juice boxes at the park.  He grabbed hold of the fence, climbed the first rung and leaped over the wood bars and he was free.  Now I start to panic.  My legs pumped harder as I sprint toward the wood fence and my toddler leaping into the street ahead.

My heart sank as he turned a corner into a neighborhood which I knew nothing about.  Damn it why didn’t I run harder to begin with?  He was gone.  I thought about all the things that could happen in an instant.  A car turning the corner, a man in a truck looking for just the right moment, someone offering him an ice-cream cone and luring him into their house.

He was across a street, around a corner and a couple houses down before I found him in someone’s garage checking out their car.  “car car” he muttered as he circled the vehicle.  This was not the first time Jaxon had made a run for it and it certainly was not the last.  He kept me in shape those few years.

Now I don’t judge

There are parents who think leashes are for dogs and parents who insist they are a necessity for safety. I spend a lot of time with my kids outside so they don’t destroy my house and I can tell you even with constant attention kids make bad choices in a split second.

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Jaxon liked his harness. When he was following directions well we took the “tail” off and he used it as a backpack.

I had two kids close together and I am legally blind which means they could be “out of sight” easily.  I used strollers and harnesses like this one but still taught safety skills.  I walked miles with my kids, waited for busses, went on camping trips and took them to busy events with hundreds of other people.  I couldn’t trust a two-year-old to patiently wait on a sidewalk while the bus they were anxiously awaiting was pulling in.  My arms were full of groceries, diaper bags and another kid.

I think things like leashes, harnesses and even strollers can be both wonderful tools and crutches at the same time. I didn’t use the leashes all the time.  I tried to teach my kids to walk close to me, stop at the corner, and listen to directions.  I let them walk the block and a half to the park unassisted so they could practice safety skills but when we were in heavy traffic areas they had to “earn” the freedom.

Before you judge someone taking their toddler for a walk tethered to a stuffed monkey consider that their little human is wired to run on impulses and emotions and the rest is “in training.”

9 Reasons to Consider Using a Harness or Leash

  1. Your kids are very young and they outnumber you
  2. You walk a lot and use public transportation – I can’t tell you how many kids I have seen darting close to or on the street looking for the bus or trolley
  3. You frequent busy places like farmer’s markets where kids can get lost in the shuffle
  4. First trips camping and hiking – kids will want to see and experience nature but you don’t want them running off in the woods
  5. You are traveling in airports and train stations – not great places to learn about getting separated the hard way
  6. If you have a child with disabilities
  7. If you are a parent with disabilities
  8. Some kids think running away ins funny and if they are like Jaxon they will also enjoy hiding
  9. Some kids are ready to be out of a stroller and frankly walking is healthier for them anyway
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Keep Cool, Hydrated and Happy

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Where I live in the Pacific Northwest we have all four seasons but neither season tends to be very extreme.  I like it that way.  Today and yesterday it has been 100 degrees.  I know that many people around the world live in much hotter climates than I, but to me this is extreme.  I am a cranky bitch in hot weather and I tend to faint.  I’m not kidding.

Don’t Die – Drink Water

A few years ago I was hiking with my young kids and it was unusually hot.  Because I am a mom I gave all the water to the kids.  They drank every last drop.  I knew I needed to find some water so I booked it back to a water source.  I made it a few feet from a public bathroom and went down.  Thankfully I have great insurance and the 45 minute ambulance ride was only $100.  Everyone knows that hydration is important but on an extremely hot day one bad decision can make all the difference.

Pay Attention

Watch out for Signs of dehydration

  • Increased thirst.
  • Dry mouth.
  • Tired or sleepy.
  • Decreased urine output.
  • Urine is low volume and more yellowish than normal.
  • Headache.
  • Dry skin.
  • Dizziness.

Also, check this article out for signs of heat stroke.

Kids, Chickens, and Pugs oh My

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Keep em happy and hydrated

We have kids, chickens and pugs at our house.  Don’t forget to offer cold water to all your kids and pets.  The chickens will be eternally thankful for ice water and cold watermelon if you have any on hand.

You can also spritz kids and chickens with clean cold water from a clean water bottle.  The chickens will hate it but the kids will be eternally grateful.

Hydrating your kids can be a little tricky.  Here are a few random ideas.

  1. Add frozen fruit to their water bottle to to give water a different flavor.
  2. Give them foods with high water content like grapes and watermelon
  3. Avoid other sugary drinks like pop and juice
  4. Use a straw – kids love drinking things with a straw
  5. Get them a mini mule – my kids love these

Check out the signs of heat exhaustion in kids.

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Pugs have smaller air passages which makes it hard for them to regulate body temperature when they breathe. Temperatures above 80 degrees can put them at risk for heat stroke and cause long term damage or even death.  It is extremely important to monitor the amount of time your animal is outside, the temperature in the house and the amount of water that is available to them. Watch for signs of trouble in your pug.

Make sure you have a shaded area for kids, chickens and pugs.  The kids will probably retreat to their bedroom with some sort of electronic device but heck who would blame them.

Relief with Essential Oils – An Alternative for You and Me

I am a big believer in essential oils.  Mint oil is not recommended for children but for us big people it is a lifesaver.  If you have not used mint oil before, please do a skin patch test.  good to go.

Mint can be a cooling oil for most people.  I like to use mint a few different ways when it is hot.

  1. Fill up a clean spray bottle with cold water and drop some mint oil in the bottle.  You don’t need a lot.  I would start with 4 drops.  You can always add more if you want.  Shake the bottle gently and spray everywhere except your eyeballs.
  2. Fill at Tupperware container with cold water and put a few drops of mint oil in the water.  Again, I would start small and go with what is pleasant.  Dunk your favorite washcloth in the water and wring it out.  You can then place it on the back of your neck.
  3. You can always soak your feet in mint water.  Your feet regulate your body temperature.
  4. Diffuse mint in an essential oil diffuser – I don’t know if this really helps or it just makes men feel better but if you have a diffuser on hand why not give it a try.  Many bugs hate the scent of mint so there is an added benefit there.

Stay cool!  

Disclaimer:  I am not a doctor or vet.  Please contact a healthcare professional if you are concerned about you or a member of your family.  Also, do not use mint oil on or around small children and pets without consulting a healthcare professional

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Father’s Day – Rant and Research

Sunday was Do Over Day in our house since our first Father’s Day was a total disaster this year.  If you are confused refer to my last Father’s Day post I wrote on June 5th.  I put much thought into this post but a couple things happened.  First, I realized I was more interested in the origin of the day itself then writing about our lazy day.  Second, I had horendous stomache pain that prevented me from writing anything coherent for two days.  Anyway, here is my rant and research.

Yah I get dates mixed up

Just in case you’re wondering, Father’s Day is the 3rd Sunday in June.  It is another one of those highly commercialized holidays. I don’t believe you need to empty your bank account to show dad that you love and appreciate your your special guy. Father’s Day is about finding a thoughtful way to truly celebrate a special relationship in your life.

Like Sonora Louise Smart Dodd did when she actively campaigned to get this whole holiday started in the first place.  Sonora’s dad was a widower raising his family in Spokane, Washington in 1910.  The Civil War Veteran was left with six children when his wife died in childbirth.

So someone got it right

Sonora felt that if it was customary to honor mothers, why not hard working fathers?  She wanted Father’s Day to be on her father’s birthday (June 5th) but the date was pushed out to the third Sunday in June to accomidate her church.  The first Father’s Day was celebrated on June 19th 1910.

So the observance of Father’s Day spread among the states.

In 1924 President Calvin Coolidge wrote that Father’s Day, “is calculated to establish more intimate relations between fathers and their children and also to impress upon fathers the full measure of their obligations.”

But Father’s Day didn’t become a national holiday until President Nixon signed on the dotted line in 1972.

Father’s Day gets overlooked by some

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Alan and both the kids.  Picture taken by Tressa Marsh.  Check out their latest Hot Cheetos Challange 

My husband thinks Father’s Day gets a bad wrap compared to Mother’s Day.  I guess people spend oodles on moms, but dads get pocket knives and funny socks or something like that.  I think it is the story that is most important.  Did you make your day a memorable one this year?

What is your Father’s Day story?

 

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Take a Deep Breath – Advice for Parents of Preteens

If you’re the parent of a preteen and you haven’t had a mental breakdown yet, you are doing fabulous.  I have two boys ages 10 and 11.  Keeping cool when you are faced with so much negativity and family turbulance isn’t easy.   Remember your child is dealing with hormones and strong emotions they’re not yet equipped to handle.  Check this article out for some insight.

My oldest son is turning 11 in one month and let me tell you the eye rolling, negative attitude and disrespectful outbursts have been a way of life for a while.  I was expecting these wonderful behaviors at the magic age of 13 when they are considered teenagers but I was wrong and ill prepared.

Don’t take this the wrong way, David is the kind of kid who will run out in the street to save a stray dog from getting hit.  He is the kid on the soccer field who will pass the ball, at just the right time, to the kid who hasn’t been able to score a goal all season.  I try to keep these things in mind when he looks me straight in the eye and lies about using my debit card to purchase $200 in game tokens on Facebook.

Dealing with your kids’ misbehavior effectively requires that you deal with your own emotional reactions first.  One holiday, when David was being particularly snarky, I found him curled up in a ball inside of a relative’s closet.  He was not considering how his disrespectful actions would result in such a family backlash.  I truly don’t think he was thinking at all.  The intellectual part of me likes to point out that it is up to the adults in his life to establish clear boundaries in an emotionally safe environment.  In reality when many of us are hit with outright defiance we push back.  And so, it begins.

So how do we expect our kids to have healthy relationships if we haven’t honestly dealt with our shit first?   I mean let’s be honest, how many of us have yelled across the house for our kids to, “log the hell off of Minecraft now,” while we are glued to a smartphone.

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Photo by Sara Logston 

Big Changes Start Simple

You can find hundreds of books and articles with parenting advice but who can remember that crap when you are super pissed, hurt, or exhausted.  Learning to take long deep breaths benefits us in general and in the moment.  There is some great science about the benefit of “mindful breathing” but the practice is not new.  Drop in on a few yoga classes and listen to your body afterwards.

Deep Breathing will:

  • Provide your brain with much needed oxygen so you don’t say something stupid or hurtful
  • Reduce anxiety for you and ultimately those around you
  • Help train your body to deal with stressful situations by regulating cortisol (the stress hormone)
  • Help activate the parasympathetic nervous system (triggering your body to rest) by practicing deep breathing daily.
  • Slow your heart rate
  • lower your blood pressure
  • Relax your muscles
  • Improve mental observation which helps you make better decisions
  • Model an excellent coping skill for your child who has big feelings like anger and frustration they don’t know how to deal with all the time

“A Breath of Fresh Air”

Since most of us live a sedentary lifestyle we are used to taking short shallow breaths.  We don’t know how to breathe deeply.  There is a surprising amount of information on the internet about different breathing exercises but this article describes the easiest way to calm yourself down in a stressful situation.

Calming Breath

  1. Take a long, slow breath in through your nose, first filling your lower lungs, then your upper lungs.
  2. Hold your breath to the count of “three”.
  3. Exhale slowly through pursed lips, while you relax the muscles in your face, jaw, shoulders, and stomach.
    Source 

For me it helps to take small amounts of time throughout the day to practice deep breathing when I am feeling stressed, frustrated or angry.  Most people don’t even know I am doing it.  This prevents the “big blow up ” from happening.  I cannot utilize any other parenting tools if I am acting like an asshole myself.  Pay attention to your body throughout the day and practice this skill if

  • you have had a bad day at work
  • your kids have not done their chores
  • your dog ate the last piece of pie

You get the idea.

You are  in Control

In the heat of the moment I think it is perfectly acceptable to take a short breather before dishing out the dreaded consequence sometimes.  Let them freak out a little not knowing what’s coming while you get your Zen on.

I have made mistakes.  I have yelled at inappropriate times and kept silent at times when David needed someone to speak up for him.  This isn’t about blame, guilt or putting your child in some seemingly protective bubble because we can’t escape childhood without some sort of trauma.  This is about learning to become your best authentic self so you can help your kids do the same.  It’s ok to be frustrated and it is healthy to ask for help.

Now take a deep breath.

Some information about Deep breathing

Just Breathe: Body Has A Built-In Stress Reliever
The Science of Slow Breathing
Relaxed and Contented: Activating the Parasympathetic Wing of Your Nervous System


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Happy Monday, I am all Fucked up Already this Week! 

Yesterday I told everyone including my husband, father-in-law and sister that it was Father’s Day all day.  It really crept up on me this year.  Jaxon, my youngest was perplexed and guilty that we had nothing special planned.

I offered to pay for breakfast for my husband and father-in-law but everyone slept in.  I then drug myself into the beautiful kitchen my husband built for me and begun making breakfast.  I turned on the wrong burner on the stove.  After a few minutes, I realized why my food wasn’t cooking and turned on the correct burner. As breakfast spit and bubbled at me I let a few “F” bombs fly.  I am a terrible person in the morning.  This has always been so.

My husband slowly turned off the first burner I had originally turned on so the house wouldn’t burn down.  This is basically how my Sunday went and the start to a new week.  My sister-in-law told me that it was, in fact, not Father’s Day yesterday around 6pm.  Father’s Day is in two weeks, of course, so I will get a do over this year.

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For this years Father’s Day post that was also not written of Father’s Day click here.

 

 

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The Road to Serenity

When I was about eleven I started a diary  “Dear Serenity.”  Perhaps I thought starting each entry would ease the bumpy road of adolescence.  I have always been a dreamer.  

So life is messy.  Our childhood blurrs by and suddenly we are dumped on a road to find purpose and deal with bad hair days.  As women, we all try to listen to what the experts say but things like motherhood and relationships make us change course and loose our way sometimes.

Motherhood took away a large peice of who I thought I was and replaced it with a deeper peace and sense of destiny.  I have gained a better sense of the world but lost some of myself in the process.  I used to be a pretty good writer for instance ,but it has taken me eleven years to start this blog.  There are always more pressing issues like vacuuming Cheerios out of the couch and grocery shopping for more cereal since the couch has eaten about half a box.

It takes time and experience to learn how to ballance adulthood.  I am 38 years old and I am reconnecting with my journal from pre adolescents.  My son is turning eleven this year and life has not slowed down but I feel like I finally have a compass or at least a sense of humor.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I just can’t handle all the crap and I am suddenly in the mood for a glass of Chardeney and a hot dog.  You know it is really a shame that alcohol is so addicting and hot dogs cause cancer.  So, lets say a prayer and join the journey together.

The Serenity Prayer

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.”

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